update...

please update your links, i've moved over to wordpress.com

http://incognito22.wordpress.com/

<3...

Happy Valentines Day!!


i received valentines wishes from friends and sorors and the two people i wanted to get wishes from most of all. hope you all had a great day!!

so...

after reading yesterday's post i feel like a complete brat! but i'm over it, i can't help it that i usually get what i want. it's just there are a few things in my life that i want right now and that's just not happening.

anyhoo...i'm going to MEXICO!!!! i still have to get my passport and confirm reservations at the spa we'll be staying at but my friend found a flight to cancun for under $280 and i got my ticket a few minutes ago. i'm excited. let's hope this trip goes better than the nyc trip i took with this person. i mean i love her, but let's just say i got very agitated very easily. i'm sure it'll be fun. now i really need that pt job, lol for spending money.

just once...

i want what i want, when i want it and how i want it. i don't want to have to wait. i'm not sure what the issue is with me today but i get so freakin' tired of being the patient, nice person. the only thing being nice and patient ever gets you is nothing! nada! zero!

i look around and it seems that everyone else always get what they want. all the time. maybe they go for it and just take a chance. i'm not at that point yet, where i can just throw caution to the wind. my personality doesn't even work like that. but if i'm not willing to take a chance, can i really complain about not getting what i want?

i just wanna scream right now. when am i'm going to get what i want? when is it going to be my turn? *sigh*

weekend recap...

it was a great weekend! friday i had a chance to hang out with sorors at the unc-charlotte step show where the sorors of winthrop university took 1st place (great show). there were only two sororities stepping, so i guess it was a win/win situation no matter how you look at it. the alphas and kappas took first and second place respectively.

although i left work late and got to the show late it was all good. some people wanted to show their...hmm, what's that work puffy used? "bitchassedness" yeah, that's it. acting like they don't know and just plain stupid. it's so sad to see how we treat each other sometimes over petty stuff.

afterwards we went to eat at applebees and i thought it would have just been sorors but we were joined by the some of the members of the charlotte chapter of iota phi theta. that was interesting to say the least. but it definitely a hilarious evening. let me just say that i can be a little clueless when it comes to men...then again, my initial instincts are usually proven right.

saturday i had another meeting and let me just say, i had to suppress laughter almost during the entire meeting. the funniest thing i heard was "i don't go to funeral homes, the spirits attach themselves to me and follow me out..." i am lmao right now just thinking of that. the stupidest thing i heard "what kind of ginger snap cookies are these? they're too hard..." these two ignorant statements (and it wasn't just limited to these two) all came from the same stupid azz person. thank goodness i don't have to like this person, i will tolerate her but um, yeah, my patience and tolerance level are getting lower by the minute.

so it sunday and the biggest thing i have to do is clean my apt. i have to cook as well, but i found this recipe on an email from discovery fitness for turkey burgers where instead of buns you eat them on wheat english muffins. i did this thursday after work and they were yummy, so i think i'll try it again today along with a nice salad.

i'on know but...

that isht just don't sound right to me. i read something a while ago that i started thinking about recently so i decided to blog about it. i'm not the most religious person, i mean i will admit that i don't know everything about the word. but i do know the difference between right, wrong, and oh hell naw.

someone was talking about a ministry and believed this was their calling. i mean that would be all fine and dandy, but shouldn't you be following the right path and shouldn't G-O-D put that calling on your heart first? like i said, i'm not an expert or authority so it could be me that's wrong. and....what makes you think that G-O-D would do that especially considering the way you're living? i'm not judging, just asking questions. and...in any ministry shouldn't you be an example of what to strive for? again, just saying.

folks really need to stop fixing the word to go along with their own personal agenda. right is right and wrong is wrong. don't try to fix it so everything looks brand new, 'cause it aint.

nasty folks...

that i work with. i hate using the bathroom at work but sometimes it can't be avoided. the women that i work with or rather the women that work in the building and share the 1st floor bathroom are a hot ass mess (pardon the language). i can't imagine how the bathrooms in their homes look if they can't even manage to keep the bathrooms at work clean. that's just a pet peeve of mine. i mean, the toilets are automatic and flush themselves. what's so hard about turning around and just checking to make sure that you didn't leave anything extra floating. that's just nasty!!! also, can folks please wash their hands before they leave the bathroom? and on that note, sticking your hands under the water for 1sec does not mean that your hands are clean. and please, don't look at me funny if after i wash my hands, i reach for a paper towel to dry my hands with but leave the water running cause i don't want to turn off the faucet with my now clean hands. and...don't look at me funny if after you touch the door on the way out i hold the handle with a paper towel or my foot, or my shoulder to keep it from closing. i'on know you like that and you're nasty as hell from what i just witnessed. it's just a shame, we're all grown but some people just need more home training than others i guess.

whew....

i am so tired! driving from charlotte to bowie, md in 8hrs with no sleep is not the bizness!!! but it was so much fun. let's just call the group that drove up the "golden girls" - obviously because we're lady sigmas but really because of personalities. seriously, we had blanche, rose, sophia and dorothy. lol!! junk food, lack of sleep, and good conversation plus people who act like damn fools can get you to your destination in no time.

when i got home at 10pm last night, i had never been so glad to see the charlotte skyline or my apartment. i ate some rice krispy treats (yummy) and called it a nite, although i'on really know what time i drifted off to sleep, i do know that i woke up this morning at 1100, completely skipped church and i really needed to go.

just a question - why do some women lose their mind over a man? i mean really? there are women out there who are educated, smart, strong and independent yet when they get a man they just lose it. there's something wrong with that picture. if a woman's self esteem is high, how does a man enter the picture and she allows that relationship to change who she is (or perhaps was she always this way?)

i just don't get it. and no...i'm not bitter or jealous. believe me, i want a relationship but i don't want to compromise who i am in order to have one. i still want to be sarcastic, funny, sensible, sweet, silly...you get the picture. but i want my man to compliment me. i want him to compromise with me, not be some big baby who pouts the second he doesn't get what he wants. i need a counterpart, someone who will treat me as an equal in the relationship, not a baby.

just some thoughts...

reconnecting...

this is something that i have to do with a lot of people in my life this year. friends and family that i've lost touch with because life got in the way.

i started today by calling my ls who moved to maryland last summer. i'd been meaning to call her but today i just decided i would do it. i'm glad i did. i found out that she'd not only been separated from her husband but now she's a divorcée and on top of it all she'd been in a serious accident. wow. all of that in the last few months...she called me in november and i had every intention of returning her call, but just didn't get a chance to do so. now i think what if something really serious had happened, i'd feel awful for not calling back. but she seems to be ok even with all that's going on.

i'll be headed up her way friday/early saturday, so maybe we'll get a chance to hook up while i'm there. or if not, i told her that i would make plans to come and visit later this year. of the two women who joined sgrho with me, she and i became fast buddies. not sure why, probably because we're crazy as hell...(yeah, i really am although not many people get to see that side of me). i call her "double RHO 7" (007) because of some relationship/dating stuff that was going on during that time. lol. so i definitely have to get on the ball and make plans to visit.

there are a few other people that i consider close friends that i need to catch up with and see what's going on in their lives. now is the time to do it, can't keep waiting because who knows what might happen.

is it too much to ask...

for a people to be consistent? maybe some people don't know what the word consistent means. so let me break it down:

/kənˈsɪstənt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kuhn-sis-tuhnt]: reliable; steady. marked by harmony, regularity, or steady continuity : free from variation or contradiction.

basically, i need for folks to do what they say they're gonna do, when they're gonna do and if it can't be done, don't come with excuses about why. but don't expect for the people around you to give you 2nd, 3rd or 4th chances.

i try to be consistent in everything. i try not to commit myself to things that i know i'm not gonna do or i don't wanna do. most people know me well enough to know if i'm gonna do something or not.

this is my rant for the day (the week, month, even year).

the snow day...

that wasn't! yesterday i was all geeked because i thought we'd be getting a little bit of wintry weather in charlotte. me and my co-workers were joking that we wanted to get at least 2-3 inches of snow, not a lot but enough so that pretty much everything is shut down, including our place of business. well...fast forward to this morning and we got zilch! i mean, it snowed but not enough to shut the whole city down, just enough to close schools and cause delays. i still had to go to work, which was ok anyway, i'll get a day off soon even if its a mental health day (yeah, its about time for one of those).

anywho, in other news i finally joined a chapter of sigma here in charlotte. didn't think that would happen but it did. i'm excited and nervous at the same time about a lot of things, but its all good because i have a good group of sorors around who will support and encourage me.

have you ever felt like you had a million things to do but no time to do it? i'm feeling that way and i hate it when things get like that. i like to think of myself as someone who is organized and knows how to prioritize, but really i don't. i'm more of a pack rat, procrastinate at all costs, make it work at the last minute type person. it works for me, but i wonder what life would be like if i was more organized.

you can't help...

who you're attracted to. i've heard that statement so many times before on tv, from family members, from some friends - especially as it relates to race and interracial dating and marriage.

i've always said that i love black men, because i do but what if i meet someone who's not black but has great qualities? what if this man respected me and himself, was accomplished, smart, had a nice sense of humor, was caring...etc, etc, etc? how could i pass up someone like that just because they're a different race? would i be a fool to not see where things could go? or just keep waiting for a brotha to come along with those qualities? i do believe there are brothas out there with those qualities but waiting for someone who may never come along vs. some who is there now doesn't make sense.

just something i was thinking about earlier today.

9 months and counting...

um, no it's not what you may think, lol. i have braces and i got some good news today at my ortho appointment. in 9 months i'll be brace free and back to eating anything i want. for a while when folks would ask how much longer i had all i could do is shrug and say "i'ono" but now i have a date and something to look forward to.

in other news, as my favorite character on grey's anatomy once said "it's over...it's so over." i can say that too as i finally got the hint and am getting someone out of my life who probably should have never been in it in the first place.

on the weather front, it's cold as a mug here in charlotte today. i think it was 14 degrees last night. hmm, but wasn't i the one saying i loved cold weather?

so, its the end of the first week of 2008 and i can say that i feel good about things that are going to happen this year. i'm on a mission to lose at least 20lbs and keep it off. i'm trying to work on my social life and get out more. getting more involved in my new grad chapter. i'm not sure what else will happen this year, but for the first time in a while, i'm excited to see it happen.