Words of wisdom...

HOW TO WORK IN ANY ENVIRONMENT
(By: T.D. Jakes)

1. Don't expect to be appreciated. Your only expectation should be to get a paycheck. Don't come to work to have personal relationships. Don't allow what you do to affect who you are.

2. Do your job well, but remember your mission. God put you there to be a Light.

3. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems. You have a ! God to talk to. You are on an assignment. Quietness and competence shall be your strength.

4. Don't let your environment get inside of you. You should influence it, not let it influence you. Stop going to work to be fed. You didn't come to receive, you came to give.

5. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities. God will often bless you through people you don't even like!

6. Remember, where you are does not define where you are going. This will deliver you from frustration. God has a plan for your life. Keep your eye on the prize. When Peter did this, he was able to walk in what other people sank in!

7. Get the optimum results with minimal confusion. Be effective without making the environment worse.

8. Don't be associated with one group or clique. Labels limit your usefulness. God wants you to work with everybody and be labeled by nobody. Use all your gifts.

9. Always keep your song near you. Keep a consecrated place in your soul. Hold on to your praise.

10. Understand that God anoints you for trouble. Put on the whole armor of God before going to work.

Are you a daddy's girl?

How many women have grown up being the apple of their father's eyes? How many women today still are? On the flip side, how many women who are my age (early thirties) grew up without their father? How many have issues?

My dad left when I was three years old. I don't remember him leaving, I guess that's a good thing, maybe I blocked it out. My mom tells me stories of how close I was to my dad years ago. She says that I would wait up until he came home from working the night shift, and just sit in the kitchen and sit with him. Some nights he'd fix me toast and some nights it would be something else.

One day he's there, the next day he's gone. As a child I probably didn't process that he was gone, but now that I'm older I think what my life would've been like had he stuck around. What if he'd been a man and stayed committed to his wife & children? He ended up leaving, but what if he even tried to play a part in our lives? It would have a more solid relationship with him, rather than just seeing him occasionally dropping off child support or Christmas or Birthday presents. I mean, don't get me wrong, he provided for us financially (somewhat) but not emotionally. He never attended a single PTA meeting, honor assembly, extra curricular activity, piano recital, or band recital, EVER. Its not like he didn't know my mom had both my brother and me in those types of activities. He knew where we lived but didn't bother finding out what was going on with us. So later, when my mom (after doing all she could) tried to get him to discipline and dispense words of wisdom to us, it was useless. My brother and I were older, almost grown, and doing our own thing.

So...do I have abandonment issues because of my dad? Probably. I never let anyone get too close. I let people know me on the surface but deep down no one really gets close enough to know the real me.

I've been thinking lately that I may need to reach out to my dad. I never call him or see him at all. Even though I'm older having a relationship with him could still be so beneficial. Even though I don't want to be the first to reach out to him, I know if I don't do it, he won't and soon it'll be too late.

Payback's a b*$&%

So I had a job interview last Friday and I was super excited because I updated my resume Wednesday and got a call from the hiring manager that same day. That never happens to me. The job was a Recruitment Specialist and would have given me a challenge and been the type of job that I've been looking for.

I was so happy and so sure that I had this job that I started thinking about how I was going to make life miserable for my co-workers by telling my manager EVERYTHING they've done wrong from day one. I was so busy planning how I was going to get back at them and get revenge that I didn't even once think it wasn't my place to do that. Not once did I consider that my manager already knew how my co-workers and "so called" team lead acted. Not once did I just think to myself that everything would be handled and that if got this new job it wouldn't even matter or be of any consequence to me. I was so focused on plotting my revenge.

Well, unfortunately I didn't get the job. But I did have a nice time talking to the hiring manager who told me if anything else became available, she would keep me in mind. Maybe if I'd been focused on putting my best foot forward to get that job instead of making my co-workers miserable I would've gotten the position; or maybe not. But I won't let my ego get the best of me next time. I'll focus on what I want and where I want to be, while still doing my job to the best of my ability and making my customers happy.

Paybacks a b*$%&.