i'm early but i wanted to wish everyone a prosperous, safe, and blessed 2008!
31 December 2007
30 December 2007
a change is gonna come...
so for the last few months i have been mulling the possibility of changing a few things about myself...for starters i've wanted to cut my hair. i want a layered bob and maybe get it colored as well but i'm not sure it would look right on me. i've been looking online to see if i can find pics of exactly how i want my hair but the closest i could find was a pic in the essence.com online hair gallery. so here is a pic of how i want my hair:
new look
that's kinda short, i mean if i'm having a bad hair day my fear is that i won't be able to pull it back into a pony-tail. but change is good, so once i find a good stylist here in charlotte (and i'm looking) that's it. and if i get it cut and layered my thought is that it might get thicker and grow even faster. who knows...
new look
that's kinda short, i mean if i'm having a bad hair day my fear is that i won't be able to pull it back into a pony-tail. but change is good, so once i find a good stylist here in charlotte (and i'm looking) that's it. and if i get it cut and layered my thought is that it might get thicker and grow even faster. who knows...
insomnia...
its almost 4am, i don't think i've ever been up this late. no - not even when i was in college. since friday, 12/21 i've been staying up later and later and getting up later then taking a nap around 3pm which has seriously thrown my internal clock off. i have no idea what i'm going to do on tuesday night because i go back to work on 1/2.
i rearranged the furniture in my apt today. not like i have so many pieces of furniture to rearrange, but i got tired of looking at my living room/dining room/pt bedroom like it was so i moved the furniture. i have to say it looks nice and cozy. i need to put up some pictures or art on the wall. for some reason i've avoided doing that since i've been in charlotte but i feel like i'm going to be here (in the city, hopefully not in this apt) for a while so i might as well get settled in. i need to find a bookshelf, so tomorrow (well today) i'll go to tar-jay and see what i can find. hopefully something cheap but chic & cute. just enough to hold the books that i have here with me, my radio, maybe a few candles and more.
i'm hungry, heck i might as well get up and eat instead of trying to go to sleep since it's officially 4am. but i'll try to squeeze in a few hours. i really want to wake up early and go to the 7:30am church service, but i don't think that's going to happen. i want to start '08 right, so i am going to try and go to a nye church service. i was talking to my friend "d" who mentioned that he might do that because this year has been extremely good for him and he's been blessed and that's where he felt he should be. even if it doesn't make it to church, he's got the right sentiments. i feel the same, this has been a good year, it may not have been a good as i expected or wanted but i really can't complain.
ok, i'm finally starting to get sleepy (ain't that a blip?) so i'm headed to bed for now...
i rearranged the furniture in my apt today. not like i have so many pieces of furniture to rearrange, but i got tired of looking at my living room/dining room/pt bedroom like it was so i moved the furniture. i have to say it looks nice and cozy. i need to put up some pictures or art on the wall. for some reason i've avoided doing that since i've been in charlotte but i feel like i'm going to be here (in the city, hopefully not in this apt) for a while so i might as well get settled in. i need to find a bookshelf, so tomorrow (well today) i'll go to tar-jay and see what i can find. hopefully something cheap but chic & cute. just enough to hold the books that i have here with me, my radio, maybe a few candles and more.
i'm hungry, heck i might as well get up and eat instead of trying to go to sleep since it's officially 4am. but i'll try to squeeze in a few hours. i really want to wake up early and go to the 7:30am church service, but i don't think that's going to happen. i want to start '08 right, so i am going to try and go to a nye church service. i was talking to my friend "d" who mentioned that he might do that because this year has been extremely good for him and he's been blessed and that's where he felt he should be. even if it doesn't make it to church, he's got the right sentiments. i feel the same, this has been a good year, it may not have been a good as i expected or wanted but i really can't complain.
ok, i'm finally starting to get sleepy (ain't that a blip?) so i'm headed to bed for now...
28 December 2007
'07 reflections & thoughts...
i usually don't do resolutions because i know that i won't keep them. instead i say what i'd like to do and then hope i can make my goals become realities. i started '07 wishing for a few things: a new job, i wanted to become more active, i wanted to meet new people, and i wanted to try and come out of my shell. i can honestly say that three of the four things happened or began to happen by the end of the year. this year i'm also truly thankful for: my family (yeah, they get on my nerves but i still love'em) and my friends/sorors (who are down for me no matter what).
this year was definitely a good year, i learned a lot of lessons but in '08 the most important thing for me to learn and remember is to listen to my conscience and learn to let things and certain people go. i must realize that it doesn't do me any good keeping unnecessary people or things in my life. in fact those things or people may be blocking my blessings and keeping the necessary things/people from coming into my life.
speaking of blocking blessings...two weeks ago joel osteen was on bet one night. now usually i don't watch bet and would have changed the channel but that night he spoke of divine connections. i felt like i really needed to hear that message at that particular time. in short, we sometimes keep people in our lives that do us no good, yet we ask god when is our blessing coming (i.e financial, relationship, etc). how can he bring those people he has lined up for us to meet and be a blessing in our lives if we are still holding on to the old? we must have faith and believe that he has things worked out already, all we have to do is be open to receive our blessings.
i took that message to heart because i have 2 people in my life right now, one i've known for over 10yrs (d) and one who i met recently (let's call his azz "can't get right"). friend #1 (d) of 10 yrs IM'd me one day right around the time i was introduced to person #2 ("can't get right"). its funny because we hadn't talked much over the last two years but now we chat a little more frequently and its all good. i'm at ease with this person, i can talk to them about anything and everything and not worry about hurt feelings or censoring what i say and most importantly this person makes me laugh. i don't know what future may hold for us but i've been told to "never say never." person #2 - "can't get right", well let's just say its finally starting to sink in (yeah, just now) that this person is "just not into me." actions speak louder than words and those actions don't say much. so i wonder if by keeping person #2 in my life am i blocking whatever may/may not happen with person #1. who knows, but '08 will definitely be interesting - no matter what happens.
this year was definitely a good year, i learned a lot of lessons but in '08 the most important thing for me to learn and remember is to listen to my conscience and learn to let things and certain people go. i must realize that it doesn't do me any good keeping unnecessary people or things in my life. in fact those things or people may be blocking my blessings and keeping the necessary things/people from coming into my life.
speaking of blocking blessings...two weeks ago joel osteen was on bet one night. now usually i don't watch bet and would have changed the channel but that night he spoke of divine connections. i felt like i really needed to hear that message at that particular time. in short, we sometimes keep people in our lives that do us no good, yet we ask god when is our blessing coming (i.e financial, relationship, etc). how can he bring those people he has lined up for us to meet and be a blessing in our lives if we are still holding on to the old? we must have faith and believe that he has things worked out already, all we have to do is be open to receive our blessings.
i took that message to heart because i have 2 people in my life right now, one i've known for over 10yrs (d) and one who i met recently (let's call his azz "can't get right"). friend #1 (d) of 10 yrs IM'd me one day right around the time i was introduced to person #2 ("can't get right"). its funny because we hadn't talked much over the last two years but now we chat a little more frequently and its all good. i'm at ease with this person, i can talk to them about anything and everything and not worry about hurt feelings or censoring what i say and most importantly this person makes me laugh. i don't know what future may hold for us but i've been told to "never say never." person #2 - "can't get right", well let's just say its finally starting to sink in (yeah, just now) that this person is "just not into me." actions speak louder than words and those actions don't say much. so i wonder if by keeping person #2 in my life am i blocking whatever may/may not happen with person #1. who knows, but '08 will definitely be interesting - no matter what happens.
getting to know me...
yeah, its one of those posts...found this on another bloggers site-
1. What time did you get up this morning? 10am est
2. Diamonds or pearls? diamonds
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? i am legend
4. What is your favorite TV show?? grey's anatomy and private practice
5. What do you usually have for breakfast?? usually i don't eat breakfast, but if i do, just fruit (strawberries and pineapples)
6. What is your middle name?? marice (yeah, it sounds just like a guy's name - i blame my momma for that one)
7. What food do you dislike??? hmm, that's tough because i love food, but i'm gonna have to say "chitlins" ya'll know that old southern favorite...ugh!
8. What is your favorite CD at the moment?? alicia keys & mary j - loving both their new CDs
9. What kind of car do you drive?? '06 honda accord
10. Favorite sandwich? #8 from wendy's
11. What characteristic do you despise??? brown noser
12. Favorite item of clothing? track pants
13. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?? england, paris, and spain
14. What color is your bathroom? plain old white
15. Favorite brand of clothing? don't really have one - whatever fits and looks good on me
16. Where would you retire to? probably asheville, nc
17. What was your most recent memorable birthday??? this years b-day because i had the chance to spend time with someone i "thought" i cared about
18. Favorite sport to watch?? none - i'm not really into sports
19. Furthest place you are sending this? not really sending this anywhere
20. Who do you least expect to send this back to you? see above
21. Person you expect to send it back first? same answer as #19 & 20
22. Favorite saying ... be who you are, say what you feel because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter
23. When is your birthday??? october 27 (please put that in your calenders, lol)
24. Are you a morning person or a night person? i guess i'm a night person
25. What is your shoe size??? 6
26. Pets??? not yet, but i'm thinking about getting a cat
27. Any new and exciting news you'd like to share with us? no
28. What did you want to be when you were little? a black dr doolittle (ie - a veterinarian) - that was before eddie murphy made his version of the movie
29. How are you today????? great, well-rested, and people keep telling me how young i look so that rocks!
30. What is your favorite candy? jelly belly jelly beans
31. What is your favorite flower?? the yellow tea rose (what else?)
32. What is a day on the calendar you are looking forward to?? october 27th
33. What is your full name?? yeah, like i'm gonna put that on here...if you know me, you already know my real full name, if you don't just ask but i'm gonna wonder why you wanna know
34. What are you listening to right now? my tv, its playing in the background
35. What was the last thing you ate? cheetos cheese puffs
36. Do you wish on stars??? sometimes
37. If you were a crayon, what color would you be??? red
38. How is the weather right now? rainy & cold
41. Favorite soft drink?? fanta cherry
42. Favorite restaurant??? not really a restaurant - panera bread
43. Hair color? black
44. Siblings? 1 older brother
45. Favorite day of the year? any day that i have vacation from work or decide to call in sick
46. What was your favorite toy as a child??? barbie's dream house w/ the pool
47. Summer or winter? fall (yeah i know that wasn't a choice)
48. Hugs or kisses? both, preferably at the same time
49. Coffee or tea?? neither
50. Chocolate or Vanilla?? hmm, vanilla ice cream...if that's what we're talking about
51. Do you want your friends to email you back? not really, comment if you like
52. When was the last time you cried??? two weeks ago
53. What is under your bed??? shoes
54. Who is the friend you have had the longest??? myra
55. What did you do last night? nothing
56. Favorite smell? vanilla (especially the bath and body works warm vanilla sugar lotion)
57. What are you afraid of? disappointing everyone by not reaching my full potential
58. Salty or sweet? depends on the day
59. How many keys on your key ring??? 6
60. How many years at your current job? 2yrs 2 months
61. Favorite day of the week???? friday
62. How many towns have you lived in? 5 (hillsborough,raleigh, cary, mebane, charlotte)
63. Do you make friends easily? no, probably cause i'm shy
64. How many people will you send this to? none, i've posted it in my blog
65. How many will respond? who knows...its posted in my blog, folks can comment if they like
1. What time did you get up this morning? 10am est
2. Diamonds or pearls? diamonds
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema? i am legend
4. What is your favorite TV show?? grey's anatomy and private practice
5. What do you usually have for breakfast?? usually i don't eat breakfast, but if i do, just fruit (strawberries and pineapples)
6. What is your middle name?? marice (yeah, it sounds just like a guy's name - i blame my momma for that one)
7. What food do you dislike??? hmm, that's tough because i love food, but i'm gonna have to say "chitlins" ya'll know that old southern favorite...ugh!
8. What is your favorite CD at the moment?? alicia keys & mary j - loving both their new CDs
9. What kind of car do you drive?? '06 honda accord
10. Favorite sandwich? #8 from wendy's
11. What characteristic do you despise??? brown noser
12. Favorite item of clothing? track pants
13. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?? england, paris, and spain
14. What color is your bathroom? plain old white
15. Favorite brand of clothing? don't really have one - whatever fits and looks good on me
16. Where would you retire to? probably asheville, nc
17. What was your most recent memorable birthday??? this years b-day because i had the chance to spend time with someone i "thought" i cared about
18. Favorite sport to watch?? none - i'm not really into sports
19. Furthest place you are sending this? not really sending this anywhere
20. Who do you least expect to send this back to you? see above
21. Person you expect to send it back first? same answer as #19 & 20
22. Favorite saying ... be who you are, say what you feel because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter
23. When is your birthday??? october 27 (please put that in your calenders, lol)
24. Are you a morning person or a night person? i guess i'm a night person
25. What is your shoe size??? 6
26. Pets??? not yet, but i'm thinking about getting a cat
27. Any new and exciting news you'd like to share with us? no
28. What did you want to be when you were little? a black dr doolittle (ie - a veterinarian) - that was before eddie murphy made his version of the movie
29. How are you today????? great, well-rested, and people keep telling me how young i look so that rocks!
30. What is your favorite candy? jelly belly jelly beans
31. What is your favorite flower?? the yellow tea rose (what else?)
32. What is a day on the calendar you are looking forward to?? october 27th
33. What is your full name?? yeah, like i'm gonna put that on here...if you know me, you already know my real full name, if you don't just ask but i'm gonna wonder why you wanna know
34. What are you listening to right now? my tv, its playing in the background
35. What was the last thing you ate? cheetos cheese puffs
36. Do you wish on stars??? sometimes
37. If you were a crayon, what color would you be??? red
38. How is the weather right now? rainy & cold
41. Favorite soft drink?? fanta cherry
42. Favorite restaurant??? not really a restaurant - panera bread
43. Hair color? black
44. Siblings? 1 older brother
45. Favorite day of the year? any day that i have vacation from work or decide to call in sick
46. What was your favorite toy as a child??? barbie's dream house w/ the pool
47. Summer or winter? fall (yeah i know that wasn't a choice)
48. Hugs or kisses? both, preferably at the same time
49. Coffee or tea?? neither
50. Chocolate or Vanilla?? hmm, vanilla ice cream...if that's what we're talking about
51. Do you want your friends to email you back? not really, comment if you like
52. When was the last time you cried??? two weeks ago
53. What is under your bed??? shoes
54. Who is the friend you have had the longest??? myra
55. What did you do last night? nothing
56. Favorite smell? vanilla (especially the bath and body works warm vanilla sugar lotion)
57. What are you afraid of? disappointing everyone by not reaching my full potential
58. Salty or sweet? depends on the day
59. How many keys on your key ring??? 6
60. How many years at your current job? 2yrs 2 months
61. Favorite day of the week???? friday
62. How many towns have you lived in? 5 (hillsborough,raleigh, cary, mebane, charlotte)
63. Do you make friends easily? no, probably cause i'm shy
64. How many people will you send this to? none, i've posted it in my blog
65. How many will respond? who knows...its posted in my blog, folks can comment if they like
26 December 2007
the day after christmas...
i am so glad to be back home, in my own apt with my bed, my kitchen, my tv, and most importantly my roadrunner service and cable tv. my mom doesn't believe in either, but she does have dial-up internet access... :(, it would have taken me three days to download a page that normally takes two seconds at my place. i guess i'm spoiled...heck i know i am, lol.
christmas was good. the usual thing is for my mom, brother, neice and me to eat dinner at my cousin's house with her mom, her family, and her in-laws. this year i just didn't feel like dealing with that...so instead we chilled at home, visited my grandma, and then spent the afternoon with my brother at his new house (with his nosey, know-it-all girlfriend). but even with her there the day was still good.
24 December 2007
19 December 2007
the randomness...
hmm, if insanity is doing the same thing day in and day out and expecting a different result would that make me insane because i keep going to my job expecting something totally different but its the same ol' isht...
i hate it when folks (even kids) cough and don't cover their mouths. today while in subway a man came in with his son. the child was coughing from the time he hit the door until they came to the counter. they got beside me, he coughed, i frowned and moved far, far away from the child...the man looked at me like i was the crazy one. umm, hayle naw i'm not trying to catch a cold from your germ ridden brat.
i saw a cupcake book (yes, shaped like a little cupcake) in target tonite. i started to get it because it had so many great cupcake recipes in it. but i didn't :( ... maybe after the holidays. i have no idea where this sudden fascination with pastries (especially cupcakes) is coming from
i'm playing hooky from work on friday!!! **insert cheesy grin** i can't wait
i love my sorors...they make me proud to call myself a sigma woman
i'm starting to realize that sometimes you just can't be nice to people. i didn't tell ol' boy i wanted to be just friends because for some odd reason i didn't want to seem cold-hearted and cruel...
i hate it when folks (even kids) cough and don't cover their mouths. today while in subway a man came in with his son. the child was coughing from the time he hit the door until they came to the counter. they got beside me, he coughed, i frowned and moved far, far away from the child...the man looked at me like i was the crazy one. umm, hayle naw i'm not trying to catch a cold from your germ ridden brat.
i saw a cupcake book (yes, shaped like a little cupcake) in target tonite. i started to get it because it had so many great cupcake recipes in it. but i didn't :( ... maybe after the holidays. i have no idea where this sudden fascination with pastries (especially cupcakes) is coming from
i'm playing hooky from work on friday!!! **insert cheesy grin** i can't wait
i love my sorors...they make me proud to call myself a sigma woman
i'm starting to realize that sometimes you just can't be nice to people. i didn't tell ol' boy i wanted to be just friends because for some odd reason i didn't want to seem cold-hearted and cruel...
17 December 2007
sick day...
no, i'm not sick, well not in the physical sense. but mentally i am so tired! i made up in my mind that i am calling in sick on friday. that was after working almost 12hrs today even after i was supposed to leave early. for some reason i have a sense of commitment to my job and the people that i work for that is not really returned to me. so, friday i am going to get up early, call my supervisors backup and let her know i will not be in and just say to hell with everything. then i'm going to sleep in and think of all the lovely things i'm going to do while on vacation next week. i mean don't get me wrong, i'm blessed and so grateful to have a job when so many people don't and are in pretty bad situations. but i just need a break. so, for once i'm gonna think of myself only and take a mental health day!
15 December 2007
i am legend...
i did get a chance to go and see i am legend. the movie was sooooooo good! i'm a chicken, so at parts i had my eyes closed, especially during the scary parts which would be any part where the night seekers were in (ya know, the people who were infected with the virus and turned into some other isht!). but i have to say, will's body was s.i.c.k! definitely back to that i, robot body (ya'll remember that shower scene, lol, that is the only reason i watch the movie).
but on the real...can you imagine finding a cure for cancer only for it to morph into this airborne virus that kills half the human population? i mean, that will make you think. like now a days, we have all these drug resistant viruses because doctors are over prescribing medicine and folks are either 1) not taking all their medicine and stopping after they begin to feel better or 2) sharing the medicine with someone in their family or their friends. so, when you look at that and then diseases like hiv/aids and other std's this could really happen. that's some scary stuff! i'on know about ya'll but i hope that if something like this happens, i would be the one who was immune to the disease, except not as crazy as robert neville, lol.
so...i loved this movie and it will definitely become a part of my dvd collection. i was joking this evening that since i paid full price (no matinées this time) i'd feel ok buying a bootleg copy of the movie. but, since i love will, when the movie actually makes it to dvd, i'll be a good consumer and pay full price.
but on the real...can you imagine finding a cure for cancer only for it to morph into this airborne virus that kills half the human population? i mean, that will make you think. like now a days, we have all these drug resistant viruses because doctors are over prescribing medicine and folks are either 1) not taking all their medicine and stopping after they begin to feel better or 2) sharing the medicine with someone in their family or their friends. so, when you look at that and then diseases like hiv/aids and other std's this could really happen. that's some scary stuff! i'on know about ya'll but i hope that if something like this happens, i would be the one who was immune to the disease, except not as crazy as robert neville, lol.
so...i loved this movie and it will definitely become a part of my dvd collection. i was joking this evening that since i paid full price (no matinées this time) i'd feel ok buying a bootleg copy of the movie. but, since i love will, when the movie actually makes it to dvd, i'll be a good consumer and pay full price.
baby its coooooooold out side...
yeah, i know, a few days ago i was hating on the warm weather. now its freezing outside and raining on top of that. most who know me know that i don't 'do' the rain. i don't go outside in the rain if i can help it. there's gotta be a helluva reason to get me outside while its raining and the #1 reason is: i have to go to work. on the weekends, if it rains i generally will not go out. i will curl up with a good book, something to eat, and be just as happy as i can be. i told this to someone today and that person said i was trippin'. um, not really, i'm just being honest, why go outside if i can stay in my nice, warm apt and watch tv? but i am going to venture out later and go see "i am legend" with a friend. i was going to see it earlier today to get the matinée movie ticket, but what the heck, i'll pay full price because i think the movie is gonna be good.
speaking again of the weather, a soror mentioned some snow/freezing precipitation coming our way this week up from atlanta. i haven't heard anything about this on the weather channel yet, so we'll see.
speaking again of the weather, a soror mentioned some snow/freezing precipitation coming our way this week up from atlanta. i haven't heard anything about this on the weather channel yet, so we'll see.
13 December 2007
*singing* its beginning to look...
a lot like christmas...nah, not even. over the last week the temps in nc have been in the 70's, yesterday in charlotte the temp was 79 which broke the record that was set back in 1931. i say bah-humbag! lol! global warming is definitely in effect. although the weather has been absolutely beautiful, it's doing nothing to put me in the christmas spirit. i'm not a fan of extremely cold weather, however i would like the weather to be consistent. one week its cold, the next week its hot. just once, i would love to have a white christmas. not like i'm gonna go out and play in the snow (well, i might) but it would be nice.
yeah, yeah, yeah the holiday is about so much more than snow but a girl can wish can't she?
*here's hoping that we get at least 2ft of snow at some point during the winter, i need a break from work, lol*
yeah, yeah, yeah the holiday is about so much more than snow but a girl can wish can't she?
*here's hoping that we get at least 2ft of snow at some point during the winter, i need a break from work, lol*
08 December 2007
wally world experience pt 2...
so i had the bright idea to take a "quick" trip to wally world this evening. it was 9:45 pm so i figured i could get in and get out. nah, that didn't happen. and the fact that i couldn't find a decent parking spot should have told me to take my tail back home. i go in the store, get what i need and head for the checkout. why, why, why were there only 2 self checkout lanes open? even worse there were only 6 regular checkout lanes open. *sigh* should have stayed my butt at home. each checkout lane had at least 10-12 people in line who seemed to have a hundred items. i should call the president of wally world and find out why all the new lanes they are "supposed" to have open (per the christmas commercial) aren't. it doesn't make sense for me to go there at almost 10pm and have 5 items and it take 40 mins to get checked out and leave the store. and that there is why i hate wal-mart! but this is what i get for letting my stomach control my actions.
05 December 2007
the "talk"...
i was reading the local paper and came across an article about a school system postponing abstinence education to allow time to review parental comments about the new program.
how many of you remember "the talk?" i remember it like it was yesterday, even though thankfully it wasn't, lol. i remember in the 5th grade getting the permission slip to watch the sex ed film and having my mom sign it so i could watch. not sure what i was excited about, i guess it was the unknown and the fact the 2 of my classmates had gotten their periods so i wanted to know what all the fuss was about (hmm, if i only knew then what know now, lol). anyway, that was 5th grade back in the early 80's. my first of a total of 3 sex ed discussions at school. there was one in the 8th grade and another in the 9th grade and that was it, i was on my own. i don't remember having a talk with my mom about sex, i just got a stern warning "don't do it." that's it. i took that to heart and that was it. i never worried or thought about it again until i became much, much older. i was never pressured into doing anything that i didn't want to do in order to become popular, to be part of the crowd or the famous "well, everyone else is doing it so i will too." that seems like a lifetime ago because clearly times and kids have changed.
i guess i wrote all that to explain my confusion about parents talking to their children about sex and abstinence. i mean, i don't have kids. like i said, i never had the talk with my mom, but if i do have kids some day i want to be open and honest with them and let them know that abstinence is the best policy but should they decide not to abstain they do have several different choices to protect themselves from pregnancy and stds. i know parents want to protect their children at all costs, shelter them from hurt, harm, and danger but i also believe in being prepared. by teaching only abstinence its like saying things don't happen. i know they do. why not prepare them with all the facts and allow them to make their own informed choice and no matter what the choice tell them you will be there for them for support and encouragement no matter what happens. what is the hang-up with talking about sex in this day and age. do we not remember what it was like when we were young? i think some parents block out what they did back in the day, they ignore it or they don't talk about it thinking they are protecting their children. nah, you're not. the one thing that my mom did talk about was getting pregnant at 18 and having to drop out of school. by talking to me about that experience, i was determined not to have the same thing happen to me and repeat that cycle of being a teenage mother.
i believe in the merits of sex education in school but i also believe any type of education starts at home first. start talking to kids at an early age about their anatomy and any feelings they may be experiencing. parents should show their kids that they're open to frank discussions about the subject. maybe if there were more discussions at home the teenage pregnancy rate wouldn't be so high. maybe the cycle of teenage mother hood wouldn't keep repeating itself. maybe the growing rate of std's in the community, particularly in the african american community wouldn't be where they are.
how many of you remember "the talk?" i remember it like it was yesterday, even though thankfully it wasn't, lol. i remember in the 5th grade getting the permission slip to watch the sex ed film and having my mom sign it so i could watch. not sure what i was excited about, i guess it was the unknown and the fact the 2 of my classmates had gotten their periods so i wanted to know what all the fuss was about (hmm, if i only knew then what know now, lol). anyway, that was 5th grade back in the early 80's. my first of a total of 3 sex ed discussions at school. there was one in the 8th grade and another in the 9th grade and that was it, i was on my own. i don't remember having a talk with my mom about sex, i just got a stern warning "don't do it." that's it. i took that to heart and that was it. i never worried or thought about it again until i became much, much older. i was never pressured into doing anything that i didn't want to do in order to become popular, to be part of the crowd or the famous "well, everyone else is doing it so i will too." that seems like a lifetime ago because clearly times and kids have changed.
i guess i wrote all that to explain my confusion about parents talking to their children about sex and abstinence. i mean, i don't have kids. like i said, i never had the talk with my mom, but if i do have kids some day i want to be open and honest with them and let them know that abstinence is the best policy but should they decide not to abstain they do have several different choices to protect themselves from pregnancy and stds. i know parents want to protect their children at all costs, shelter them from hurt, harm, and danger but i also believe in being prepared. by teaching only abstinence its like saying things don't happen. i know they do. why not prepare them with all the facts and allow them to make their own informed choice and no matter what the choice tell them you will be there for them for support and encouragement no matter what happens. what is the hang-up with talking about sex in this day and age. do we not remember what it was like when we were young? i think some parents block out what they did back in the day, they ignore it or they don't talk about it thinking they are protecting their children. nah, you're not. the one thing that my mom did talk about was getting pregnant at 18 and having to drop out of school. by talking to me about that experience, i was determined not to have the same thing happen to me and repeat that cycle of being a teenage mother.
i believe in the merits of sex education in school but i also believe any type of education starts at home first. start talking to kids at an early age about their anatomy and any feelings they may be experiencing. parents should show their kids that they're open to frank discussions about the subject. maybe if there were more discussions at home the teenage pregnancy rate wouldn't be so high. maybe the cycle of teenage mother hood wouldn't keep repeating itself. maybe the growing rate of std's in the community, particularly in the african american community wouldn't be where they are.
life changing...
this is not another blog about relationships or men, this will be a fun blog (at least for me). about one of my most favorite things in the world. FOOD! today for lunch i decided to try something new. i went to my favorite places - panera bread (thanks fantasy eyes for getting me hooked on that place, lol). anyway, my co-worker said she was having the broccoli cheddar soup and a sandwich. so i decided to forgo my normal salad and try the soup and sandwich as well. did i already mention it was life changing? lol, yeah it's that serious. my sandwich was the bomb, i just wasn't expecting the soup to be so good. 'cause after all, it's just soup right? wrong! it really is more than that. so now, i'm trying to figure out if i want to experience the soup again tomorrow or if i'll lay low and maybe get it on friday or this weekend. so here's to panera...
next up is waffle house. i.love.this.place! sure, they're not the neatest places in the world but where else can you get waffles that are made while you wait and melt in your mouth? i love this place so much that three or four years ago, i searched and searched for a waffle maker so i could make waffle-house like waffles at home. where else can you get full off a meal for $6 or maybe less? love it, love it, love it.
ok, let's talk about chain style restaurants? i have two favorites...well probably more but i like the bread from these two places so i'll include them. that would be red lobster, for their cheddar biscuits (which i have the recipe for and will be making at home soon) and their all you can eat seafood event. and let's not forget olive garden. i have two favorites at olive garden...the chicken caesar salad and their chicken fettuccine.
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next up, a place that i can only go to once in a while but it is definitely worth it. i'm talking about the cheesecake factory. it's a little on the pricey side but the cajun jambalaya shrimp/pasta is to die for. i love shrimp and i get this dish every time i go this is what i order. this along with a slice of blackout cake or any one of the many varieties of cheesecake will make you wanna slap yo' momma. i can't go here often, but when i do...man oh man.
and finally...the dessert that i love the most! cupcakes!! every now and then i will buy a box of betty crock white cake mix, get out my muffin pans and bake a batch of cupcakes. to me, these are the ultimate dessert. add a little cream cheese frosting (has to be home made and not store bought) and wow. they just melt in your mouth. i have a recipe to bake cupcakes from scratch and i think i will try it over the holidays. even though i say i don't cook, i love cooking deserts (from the easiest to the hardest). found two more recipes for cupcakes, but essentially the same but i think i'll make homemade, from scratch cupcakes for a holiday pot luck my team is having at work.
next up is waffle house. i.love.this.place! sure, they're not the neatest places in the world but where else can you get waffles that are made while you wait and melt in your mouth? i love this place so much that three or four years ago, i searched and searched for a waffle maker so i could make waffle-house like waffles at home. where else can you get full off a meal for $6 or maybe less? love it, love it, love it.
ok, let's talk about chain style restaurants? i have two favorites...well probably more but i like the bread from these two places so i'll include them. that would be red lobster, for their cheddar biscuits (which i have the recipe for and will be making at home soon) and their all you can eat seafood event. and let's not forget olive garden. i have two favorites at olive garden...the chicken caesar salad and their chicken fettuccine.
and 
next up, a place that i can only go to once in a while but it is definitely worth it. i'm talking about the cheesecake factory. it's a little on the pricey side but the cajun jambalaya shrimp/pasta is to die for. i love shrimp and i get this dish every time i go this is what i order. this along with a slice of blackout cake or any one of the many varieties of cheesecake will make you wanna slap yo' momma. i can't go here often, but when i do...man oh man.
and finally...the dessert that i love the most! cupcakes!! every now and then i will buy a box of betty crock white cake mix, get out my muffin pans and bake a batch of cupcakes. to me, these are the ultimate dessert. add a little cream cheese frosting (has to be home made and not store bought) and wow. they just melt in your mouth. i have a recipe to bake cupcakes from scratch and i think i will try it over the holidays. even though i say i don't cook, i love cooking deserts (from the easiest to the hardest). found two more recipes for cupcakes, but essentially the same but i think i'll make homemade, from scratch cupcakes for a holiday pot luck my team is having at work.
04 December 2007
let's just be friends - the remix...
so the more i think about it, the more i realize that i want to (and can) be friends. i was upset a few posts back, but i've thought about it and contemplated what i really wanted and for right now that's it. this person is dealing with a lot of issues right now and a relationship is probably not going to a top priority. as someone whose never dated much, i am looking forward to really getting out there & exploring my options. and so, if i do just that and then realize this person (and subsequently a relationship) is what's best at least i won't be resentful and always thinking "what if".
02 December 2007
what my stars say about me...
ok...i jacked this from another blogger site; i really don't do horoscopes but thought it would be interesting to see if this matched my personality. hmm, let's see i am very smart, adorable, intelligent and love to joke. energetic...maybe (in the right situations, lol). always get what i want...yeah pretty much. romantic...yep, i'm a big sap. talkative...nah, not even. i can be very emotional and tempermental, lol...so don't cross me. secretive...yeah, i'm a very private person.
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karma...
have you ever done something you knew was wrong but didn't worry about the consequences because you got what you wanted? do we (yes, even me 'cause i ain't no saint) realize that karma is gonna come back and bite us in the butt? guess not, as long as we got what we wanted at the time we wanted it, every thing's alright? that's the philosophy that some have. however in my particular situation, i always worry that anytime anything goes wrong it's because i'm being paid back for what i did. why is it that we are sometimes so worried about getting what we want when we want it and how we want it that we don't consider the potential consequences? we don't consider who we are hurting and we don't consider (or maybe don't care) to paraphrase miss celie - what we do to others is gonna come back to us hard. i wish that we would start to realize that we can have everything we want, but in it's own time. if we just wait and get things the right way the end result would be even sweeter and more worth the wait.
01 December 2007
three strikes you're out...
when do you stop giving people multiple chances to be a part of your life? what determines someone's ability to get another chance? i have a decision to make. let someone back in my life who completely screwed up or not, if i do some would say that i'm foolish. my head is telling me that after multiple chances i will be screwed over again. my heart tells me that another chance is worth it. my intuition is telling me this person needs something from me and that's the only reason they want to work things out. which one should i listen to: heart, head, intuition? its a tough decision...
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